the idea of people having to be ‘useful’ is just so gross, like people do not exist to be used
having to produce something and have a use is a capitalist ideal and not an intrinsic part of humanity
just by being alive you are human and you are worth something and you can never be useless
It’s not even funny how badly I needed to hear this and now I wanna cry.
This is relevant to what I was thinking the other day when listening to Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer (Or however it’s spelled). Rudolph is bullied for being different. But only when he saves the day and proves his difference to be useful that the people come to appreciate him (“then all the reindeers loved him”). How fucking awful is that? I know it’s just a Christmas carol, but it’s actually a very toxic idea that comes up a lot in fiction dealing with bullying.
People will love you if you make yourself useful.
It’s not harmless. As a kid, I was bullied for 7 years, non-stop. And I clung to this carol and other similar naratives, I believed them. I believed that if I made myself useful, that if I saved the day, I would be loved and other kid would stop bullying me. I was so lucky not to be abused of because of this belief. It’s these kinds of narratives that lead to toxic friendships and other toxic relationships. It’s that kind of narrative that leads to that typical situation in fiction where the nerd does the bully’s homeworks, and gets used in all other ways. You cling to the hope of being accepted if you’re useful, and other people know this very well and use it to their own advantage.
I wish I could better express my ideas, but, hum… I guess you get the picture.
Send me an English word and I’ll tell you what it is in my native language.